Wednesday, 29 November 2017

Eine der 5 foodgroups: Finanzen

Hanna und ich leben seit 2 Jahren zusammen. Gleich zu Beginn unseres Zusammenlebens haben wir einen FLR-Vertrag erstellt und unterschrieben. Dieser regelt alle wichtigen Dinge, unter anderem auch den Umgang mit den Finanzen.

Zu Beginn unserer FLR-Beziehung haben wir vereinbart, dass Hanna für jede geleistete Stunde, die sie im Haushalt oder in anderer Art und Weise für mich arbeitet, 3 Euro erhält. Hierfür musste Hanna ein sogenanntes Haushaltsbuch führen, in dem sie jede geleistete Tätigkeit auflistet. Am Wochenende (in der Regel Sonntag Abend) wurden die in der Woche geleisteten Stunden zusammengezählt und ausgezahlt.

Irgendwann war es mir zu viel Arbeit, immer das Haushaltsbuch zu kontrollieren. Wir bemerkten außerdem, dass Hanna zu viel Geld angehäuft hat, weil sie ja von mir mit allem wirklich Nötigen versorgt wurde. Wir änderten nach einem Jahr die Bezahlung auf pauschal 12 Euro wöchentlich ab. In diesem Sommer änderten wir die Vorgehensweise erneut.

Aktuell gibt es einen Schülerkalender, in dem ich jeden Tag eine bestimmte Performance-Punktzahl vergebe. Diese hängt nicht davon ab, wie viel Hanna arbeitet, sondern wie ihre Einstellung zur Arbeit und ihre Aufmerksamkeit mir gegenüber ist. Für normale Performance gibt es 2 Punkte. Maximal können 4 Punkte erzielt werden. Diese tägliche Bewertung der Performance ist jeden Tag ein Anreiz für Hanna, besonders aufmerksam und engagiert zu sein. Mit den Punkten einer Woche wird am Ende der Woche ein Durchschnitts-Score errechnet (z. B. 2,8). Die Durchschnitts-Scores werden addiert und festgehalten.

Jeder Punkt hat einen Wert von 2 Euro. Hanna kann diese Punkte nach meiner Zustimmung in Euro umwandeln und sich einen besonderen Wunsch erfüllen. Außerdem kauft Hanna von diesem Geld Geburtstags- und Weihnachtsgeschenke für mich!

Hanna hat also keinerlei Geld zur freien Verfügung. Natürlich hat sie ein Portemonnaie, in dem für besondere Notfälle ca. 20 Euro sind. Auch hat sie eine EC Karte, mit der sie im Notfall Geld abheben oder im Notfall bezahlen kann (z. B. Auto betanken, Getränke kaufen). Da ihr Konto von mir streng überwacht wird, besteht keine Gefahr, dass Hanna ohne meine Kenntnis Geld ausgibt.



Ich muss allerdings hinzufügen, dass Hanna mit allem versorgt wird, was sie wirklich benötigt. Auch Ausgaben für unser gemeinsames Hobby Fahrrad fahren werden nach meiner Genehmigung gemeinsam bestellt oder besorgt. Da ich es liebe, Kleidung für sie zu kaufen, bekommt sie immer mal wieder das eine oder andere Stück (meistens Frauen-Kleidung) mitgebracht, worüber sie sich immer sehr freut.

Fazit: Diese Kontrolle der Finanzen ist für eine FLR-Beziehung sehr wichtig. Nur so ist der Sub-Partner richtig abhängig. Es ist ihm so möglich, sein ganzes Dasein auf den Service des Dom-Partners zu fixieren, weil dies die einzige Geldeinnahme-Quelle für ihn ist.

M

Tuesday, 28 November 2017

ATM Shock

I will be away from M this coming weekend. A short foreign trip. So I needed to get some money, because in our relationship, I don’t have any money. If I want something, I ask M. She usually will say yes because I don’t ask for outrageous things.

So we were cycling through our town last night when we passed an ATM. I asked if I could take out money for the trip, and she agreed. She gave me my bank card and I drew €200 (not that I will spend that much, just for cover).



I then realised, that in my 2 years in Germany, this was the first time I had drawn from an ATM.

It was a shock to realise this, and realise also that the ability to draw money felt very strange. I have simply lost the right to have money. M simply remarked that I had her, what more did I need. Correct as usual. Nothing but her.

Hanna

Monday, 27 November 2017

My first ever Tupperware party.

So last Monday, M told me to be home from work earlier than usual. I needed to have the evening meal prepared and fully cleaned up in time to drive her to a friends house for 7pm. She did not want to drive because parking can be difficult. I asked her what the occasion was and she told me it was a girl’s night, a Tupperware party.

So yesterday, I did as instructed and left work somewhat earlier than usual. I was happy to do this as the fewer excess hours I work the fewer spankings I will get on Friday evening. (Either M or I will write about this at some point).

As usual, I changed clothes when I got home. This is a rule that M now enforces more strictly than before, as I had developed a tendency to lounge around in work clothes or cycling gear when I got home, in breach of a stated rule. So I am required to change into female clothing when I come home, to remind me that I am the one who takes the traditional wife role in the relationship. To enforce the rule further, I am not allowed any smartphone or laptop time unless I am fully clothed in female clothes.  That usually does the trick!

So having prepared a very light snack (she was being fed at the party), she said it was time to go. Then she said “If we find a parking spot, you are coming in with me, if not, go home and collect me again when I call”. I protested” but It will be all women there , and I am dressed in quite a female hoody ( and female jeans).”. She was not having any excuses, and just said “So!…and anyway the husband of the hostess wiil be there as he has prepared a few snacks”.

15 minutes later we were there. Lots of cars about, but also a few free parking spaces. I knew what this meant. Tupperware party time instead of home alone looking at football.

There were 5 women at the party in addition to the Tupperware rep. So six women in total. I was thankful there was one other man there. So for the next two hours all aspects of this months special offers from Tupperware were discussed and compared in German. Is this bowl too big? Isn’t that Minnions lunch box cute? Do I need this new apparatus or will my current electric mixer do a better job? Riveting stuff :-(

M also handed me her order form. She had me fill out all her details, find the product codes in the catalogue, complete the order and tot it up. The other women must have been amused. The conversation also strayed to how Tupperware can take over your kitchen space and needs to be sorted out and arranged from time to time. M told them that she has me tidy her cupboard from time to time (which is true…in fact I needed to do it again tonight, just before I wrote this blog). The Tupperware rep said she could not do that as she needed to know herself where everything was. M just responded with a look that said…I don’t!

When it came to paying, she sent me out to get the purse from her handbag and return with it. She enjoyed ordering me around. She also made me eat food that she knew I did not like. When she saw my face after the first mouthful, she made sure to give me more later, knowing that a refusal from me was not an option.

After two and a half hours the party ended and we went home. It was a great night in terms of M exerting and demonstrating her power. I find this irresistible, but of course it can be uncomfortable, tiring or boring at the time. But knowing the context, I feel her power and need it like a drug.

In agreeing the terms of our relationship, two years ago, which we set out in a contract to each other,  I gave M control of “all five food groups”, one of which is control over my free time. And from time to time, she uses an opportunity to remind me!

Hanna

Vorstellung

Hanna und ich haben schon lange ueberlegt, einen Blog zu unterhalten, um Menschen an unseren Erfahrungen, die wir in den letzten beiden Jahren in unserer FLR Beziehung gemacht haben, teilhaben zu lassen.

Der Schwerpunkt unseres Blogs wird der taegliche Umgang miteinander sein, wie wir mit den sogenannten 5 foodgroups umgehen, welche Ideen ich seither entwickelt habe und welche Loesungemoeglichkeiten ich bei Schwierigkeiten fuer uns entdeckt habe.

I write here in German but welcome interaction from interested readers in either German or English.

M.

Introduction

So….here we are with our first blog post….feels like jumping off a high diving board and hoping there is enough water in the pool when we get there!

My name is Hanna. My boss is M. For two years now, I have lived in a real-life, day to day, Female Led Relationship (”FLR”) with her. Our aim here is to describe our life, the choices we made (and still make), and open a mirror into the many facets of our FLR, hence the cover photo.

For M and I, FLR brings an energy to our relationship and fosters and incredible and exciting bond. We will try to post regularly (real life has a habit of getting in the way) and we welcome interaction. I will usually post in English, except when M directs otherwise.

Please feel free to interact with us in German or English, since both M and I are proficient enough in either language. (M is certainly more proficient in English than I am in German, but we both have enough competence to interact in our "foreign" language)

Hanna

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